Some friendships end slowly—in missed calls, unanswered texts, and constantly rescheduled hangouts. We should hang out soon! your friend says. Yes, let’s! you respond. But the other person is never available, and so the friendship fades.
Other friendships end in angry words, harsh judgments, and buried resentments brought to light through tears and tight throats. They end in “you always” and “you never” statements that cut deep and rot the roots of deep companionship.
Are you dealing with the pain of a lost friendship today?
Whether your friendship ended in a slow break or a sudden one, it hurts. It’s tempting to look back on the friendship and ask yourself a million questions. How did our friendship end up like this? Were we every truly as close as I thought we were?
Praying Through Loss
It’s painful to look back on a broken friendship.
Sometimes it’s easier to convince yourself the friendship was bad from the start. It’s easier to stuff the pain down and ignore your feelings. But the hurt is still there.
If you’re feeling the pain of an ended friendship, it’s okay to take the time to grieve the loss of your relationship. The Bible says that “The LORD is near to those who are discouraged” (Psalm 34:18 GNTD). You can tell God how you feel. Not sure what to say? You can start by praying through these verses with me:
- Lord, it’s easy to feel alone in my pain. It sometimes feels like no one understands how hurtful it was to see this friendship end. Help me remember that you care and you understand how I feel.
He heals the broken-hearted
and bandages their wounds. (Psalm 147:3 GNTD)
- God, I’m hurt and angry. I didn’t expect our friendship to end this way. Please show me how to forgive the person I thought was my friend.
Get rid of all bitterness, passion, and anger. No more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort. Instead, be kind and tender-hearted to one another, and forgive one another, as God has forgiven you through Christ. (Ephesians 4:31-32 GNTD)
- Lord, thank you for being my friend. Remind me that you are the friend who never fails, and help me to rest in the comfort of your everlasting love and friendship for me. Amen.
And you are my friends if you do what I command you. I do not call you servants any longer, because servants do not know what their master is doing. Instead, I call you friends … (John 15:14-15a GNTD)
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