Super mom. Super wife. Super worker. Super life.

Many women might use these words to describe themselves. Often, they try to be the best version of themselves for their kids, their husbands, their employers, their social media "friends." All this, despite the Bible's message that God's love for us isn't contingent upon human perfection.

Various factors--from changing roles in the workplace to the influence of social media—play a big part in the pressure women feel to be perfect, says psychotherapist Bryan Gouge, PhD.

"Women are expected to have the roles of their mothers while maintaining the jobs of their fathers," says Dr. Gouge. "Men are just expected to be in the workplace as their fathers were. This creates a struggle for women, who are working, raising children, keeping a house and maintaining a relationship with their husbands."

Additional pressure comes from what Dr. Gouge calls a "societal feedback loop."

"What you're fed from society is what you're expected to put out," Dr. Gouge says. "If women are fed enough images associated with beauty, for example, they're going to expect themselves to be what they see.

"Unfortunately, the way a woman is valued in popular culture is based on her physicality," says Dr. Gouge. "This grossly undervalues all that a woman is."

The influence of social media adds to the problem. "Social media, particularly Facebook, has skimmed the full picture of reality and given a view of other people's lives from a skewed perspective," says Dr. Gouge. "We don't get exposed to the struggle and vulnerability. We just see the successes, the accomplishments, the accolades."

Dr. Gouge works with female adolescents whose self-image is affected by how many likes, shares and comments they get on social media. If their posts don't generate a lot of activity, they feel bad about themselves. Conversely, they feel much better if their posts generate favorable responses.

In working with women in the 35 to 50 age group, Dr. Gouge has seen a similar phenomenon, although it's not relegated strictly to social media. "A lot of positive feelings women have about themselves can be contingent on how other people respond to them.

"This is never a good thing," Dr. Gouge continues, "because women are measuring their worth and value on others' opinions."

This is not how God values us. He loves us simply because we are.

Dr. Gouge says women need to extend grace to themselves, something they often don't do. They also need to understand they can't be all things to all people all the time. And they shouldn't try because they'll never succeed.

Instead, they should love the person God created them to be. Psalm 139 reminds us that "we are fearfully and wonderfully made."

Without exception.